Something Beautiful

So yesterday was Valentine's day (I'm writing this on the 15th of February, 3.55pm GMT+8). It's always frustrating and annoying scrolling through social media on the days leading up to and the day itself. You'll read single people demeaning couples and promoting why being single is great, or people bemoaning their "single" relationship status. Sometimes, you also a "taken" person belittling single people. like come on humans?! Really? Like really? Geez man, if you're taken, you're taken, if you're single you're single! i don't understand why you have to make such a big fuss over... being hitched or not. 

Me? Well, I'm single, a bachelor. I love being single. I enjoy time by myself and doing things as a single person, without any relationship "commitments in that sense. But don't get me wrong here, I do want to get married. I do want to find that special someone to spend the rest of my life with and lavish all my love on. I do dream of waking up to a beautiful woman in my arms every morning. That very special woman. I can't really use words to describe exactly how I feel but it's a warm gushing kind of sensation. There is a tinge of excitement to it too. So yeah, even though I'm not dating now, I'm not desperate for someone to complete me. i think the issue is that a lot of people feel they need someone to complete them. I think that's wrong. You are complete as a person, but when you get married, it is the fusion of 2 complete being becoming a new and special person. :)

For now I see my days as a single man prepping for marriage and life as a husband and father. For example, I'm working out to build a body that is strong and big that my wife can snuggle up to every night, arms that will make her feel safe and legs that will be able to carry her. Also, I'm working out to build a figure my wife can be proud of. Now, I'm not saying that you need to look good for your spouse to feel proud of you. Character must always come first. The looks come as a topping. Speaking of character, trying to deal with my own issues and flaws before marriage, at least most of them cause you can't change that fast or easily. =P I'm also trying to clear my own baggage. One problem is that each person expects their spouse to help them carry their baggage without realising that their partners have personal baggage too. This leads to arguments as expectations are not met. I don't want that to happen hence I have started to sort out my problems. 

Marriage is something beautiful but working towards a beautiful marriage takes time. In fact, I believe it begins before we even meet that special someone. As God uses situations in life and people shape our lives, I believe it all does get us ready for matrimony. The change doesn't finish before marriage. It still goes on after marriage but knowing that God has a hand in it and keeping Him at the center of the relationship makes the transitions and change comforting I believe. Now don't get me wrong and think that marriage is the ultimate goal in life. It is not but it is one of the milestones and if not in a sense "accomplishments" in life. It is something one works towards. But if you live a life single forever, know that God's plan for you is the best you could ever have. Marriage is not everything. Trusting God is. the biggest "accomplishments" you could ever have is entering a deep relationship with Christ. Everything else will then fall in place, regardless whether you do get married in the end or not. I do want to get married but I don't know if I ever will. What I do know that with my life in Christ, I am secured and taken care of, and that is the most beautiful thing.

Till next time

Dennis